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Awaken the Healer Within

Self Love Initiation (Self Paced)

Self paced course (designed to take 3-9 months) for empaths in the helping professions or with a calling to the healing arts, to end overgiving, overwhelm, and overload, while learning a powerful self healing modality, so you can embody self love and give from abundance

with Dr. Joy Lovesey

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Who This Is For

Those sensitive souls and empathic ones who are called to be in service to others, who are wanting for that to be more successful, sustainable, pleasurable, and balanced, are invited to initiate into a self love practice, and learn to self-heal your own constraints to serving more effectively, without overwhelm, overload, or burnout. 

If this course is for you, you agree with these statements...

👍 I am an empath, or am highly empathic, and I am either working, trained to work, or called to transition into working in a helping profession (healers, counsellors, therapists, teachers, nurses, carers, support workers, social workers, or another person focussed service profession).

👍 I am willing to change some of my old habits that don't actually serve me and implement new ones in order to feel and therefore serve better.

👍 I want a deeper relationship to myself (and all of life!) and I am willing to look at the icky bits when that's what it takes.

👍 I want more balance in my life between work, relationships, health, family, spirituality, play, and creativity, and to feel a clear sense of purpose in all these areas

👍 I want to have an independent and sustainable self love practice, and want to learn from others (like Joy) so that I can empower myself to do this.

👍 I know I am the only one capable of transforming myself, and I am ready to take responsibility for my own healing.

👍 I am ready to decide powerfully to apply your effort to get the result of more self love and all that this brings.

👍 I have time to either attend or watch later the live sessions (weekly on Wednesday's) plus at least 20mins of independent practice per week

👍 I am comfortable in groups and respect group dynamics and other people's boundaries

If you said "no" to any of these, the LIVE course is not for you, but you would still be welcome to take the self paced version, because self love is for everyone!

If you resonate with any of these statements, then I had you in mind when I created this course…

💓 You are mostly successful in life in an 'outward' way, but something is missing on the inside - you don't experience an ease and fullness of self love

💓 You want to thoroughly enjoy your own company and be able to genuinely fill yourself up with love, and know this will make you better able to serve those you help

💓 You want to be able to fully receive the love, complements, and healing offered to you by others, but you sometimes feel like a sieve, nothing sticks and makes you feel better for long, if at all

💓 You want to heal your inner child by giving them the unconditional love they need and didn't get

💓 You don't feel good enough, and more certificates don't help, so you're ready to do the inner work

💓 You sometimes find yourself burnt-out (or close to it) overloaded, overwhelmed, or exhausted

💓 You feel that other's needs are more important, it's hard to consider your own wants and needs, and to value your own energy as much as others'


💓 You sometimes give even when you don't feel like it - you struggle with boundaries

💓 You sometimes feel your nerves are frazzled or shot, and either run on stress or collapse

💓 You take your work home with you often along with other peoples feelings and problems

If you said "yes" to even ONE of these statements (or more!) then this course is for you: I want to help you get the inside feeling great so that you can give your gifts to all those you help from a place that will help so much more, WITHOUT burdening you anymore!

This journey will empower you to cultivate a beautiful relationship with your self. 
From this foundation, so much else can flow, and you may experience deep shifts in other areas of your life as a result. 🌟


If you aren't sure if you need more self love, or what lack of self love looks like, here are some symptoms of lack of self love, that this course aims to support you to overcome:

  • Poor boundaries

  • A fierce "inner critic"

  • Frequent apologising

  • Self sabotage, including procrastination

  • Not trusting your feelings / second guessing yourself

  • Symptoms from over-empathising (taking on other people’s stuff)

  • Not enjoying your own company or finding it hard to be alone

  • Putting up with less than you deserve 

  • Attracting people with compatible wounds that play out with pain and suffering

  • Co-dependent relationships

  • Being a target for narcissistic abuse

  • Questioning whether your loved ones/clients really love you/respect you, or would still if they knew you better

  • Fearing you will be abandoned or rejected

  • Over-giving

  • Overworking / hyper-achievement

  • Imbalance in life, e.g. successful in work but not relationships, or vice versa

  • Feeling you are not good enough

  • Feeling empty inside

  • Stored unprocessed emotions like loneliness, grief and shame

  • Some forms of self neglect, including poor eating habits, including over/under-eating, poor self care, or tolerating unhealthy people and situations for too long.

Trying to create a sustainable professional practice under these conditions is TOO HARD!!! You are fighting against the inner current. I want to help END THE WAR inside, and give you tools that will empower you to end these patterns and then continue to help others WITHOUT suffering for it! 


The most profound and lasting transformation will be the result of your habitual engagement in the tools and practices offered through this process - for those who participate fully I know that what is taught on this course will be everything you need to get these results.


The vision I hold, and will do everything I can to support you to manifest is that your new normal will be:

  • Enjoying your relationship with yourself so much, and being able to stay present with yourself even in hard times

  • Being comfortable with yourself, finding it easier to express yourself authentically

  • More security from knowing you 100% hold space for yourself, and greater resilience in vulnerability (leading to increased capacity to hold space for others)

  • Knowing yourself intimately, and loving yourself unconditionally (meaning you can love others more unconditionally and be more present with them)

  • Clear boundaries you assertively uphold

  • Feeling clear and purposeful - if you already have a professional practice, this may become more meaningful and enjoyable, and if you've been struggling to get that set up, you will be able to do so

  • Advocating for what you are worth in all areas of life (hint: it is a lot!!!)

  • Passionate self encouragement, self belief, and calm confidence leading to greater success in reaching your personal and professional goals

  • Sweet enjoyment of life’s pleasures, more ease in resting and more joy in playing, and more spontaneous and creative flow

  • Giving from abundance and overflow

  • Effortless healthy habits and self care

  • Magnetic attractiveness to the right people, and more fulfilling and emotionally intimate relationships

  • Feeling whole, and full, and DEEPLY BELOVED

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The journey spirals through the aspects of belief, emotion, embodiment, and spirit so that self love embeds through all levels of being, to create a genuine and lasting transformation inside, and shift in your reality outside  🌟

What  Graduates Say...

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“Since taking this course I value myself more highly, and I listen to my own needs and act accordingly. I have learned to not only accept myself for who I am but also to see the beauty within me and love myself for who I am […] I started the course without even knowing what self love felt like. This is only something that I only learned during the course.” - Steffi 🌟

Course Format 

Online Course Platform (with App)

💓 Hosted by the Kajabi online course platform, along with free app, you can sync progress between devices and get lifetime access from your phone app or computer whenever you need. The self-study smorgasbord of tools, practices, and resources that you can use and refer back will be released week by week for 12 weeks, and includes:


  • Live footage of self love ceremonies and workshops

  • Teaching videos of 12-steps

  • Guided self healing journeys 

  • Guided meditations

  • Downloadable audios

  • Self love exercises 

  • Pdf downloads

  • How-to’s

  • Examples/ demos and inspiration

  • + Bonuses: 

    • Self Love Yoga session​

    • Self Love Chi Gung session

    • Self Love Conscious dance session

    • Self Love Music Playlist

    • Journal prompts

You will keep lifetime access to this so it will be a comprehensive library as an ongoing companion to you as your self love journey continues and deepens long after the end of the course.

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1-2-1 Healing Accelerator Sessions

As a member of my course, you will have the option to book VERY powerful 1-2-1 healing sessions as you need them. While you will get all the tools you need for self healing, these sessions will make the process more efficient and go deeper, clearing decades (often centuries!) of beliefs, stuck programmes and patterns, blocked emotions and more. These might include: 

- Belief clearing, using Theta Healing to clear, cancel, and delete those unhelpful false beliefs quicker than anything else I know! You'll be prepared with a list of beliefs and we will blast through them in this session.

- Emotional clearing, using Vortex Healing to optimise the emotional pathways on an energetic level and support releasing and processing emotions on the deepest level on an ongoing basis. 

- Action coaching, using IFS therapy (Internal Family Systems) to get into the deep reasons for your current patterns of behaviour and understand the way to adopt new healthy, balanced, self loving ones. 

- Integration, activation, or accountability session. This is to use as you need it, and can include any of my modalities or coaching to support you in the best way tailored to the one and only, beautiful YOU!

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1-2-1 sessions are bookable at your convenience throughout the course. 


These are optional, and at extra cost (see booking page for full details.)


They are only available to course participants as I no longer offer ad hoc sessions to people not familiar with my work.

Online Community

You’ll also get invited to the community group where you can get extra feedback, support, and inspiration from other beautiful souls in the self love tribe, including me. There will be regular access to live calls where you can get additional coaching, support, and Q&As. 

12 Step Spiral Transformational Process

Since I've researched this for a PhD project and been a philosophy teacher since 2008, I have created this process with very careful thought to pedagogy and the inner workings of genuine lasting transformation - the result is a 12 step process that includes all of the necessary ingredients: beliefs at the level of mind, behaviours at the level of body, and emotions that bridge them, along with spirit which both transcends and includes them all. Because our beliefs effect our emotions and behaviour, our emotions effect our belief and actions, and our action effects our belief and emotion, genuine change needs to include all of them, and this course guides you in a spiral that moves through these levels in turn three times. This is the 12-Step Spiral. If you work it, IT WORKS!

Each spiral round moves through one step on belief, one on emotion, and one on embodiment...


Each step has some or all of these ingredients:

  • Learning (teaching core concepts)

  • Practice (to engage with daily during this step)

  • Exercise (one-off experience to gain insight)

  • Journey (guided inner work)

  • Shift (key perspective change / re-orientation)

  • Journal prompts (increasing self knowledge, illuminating your inner wisdom)

  • Tracking (measuring success)

Here's a summary of each step, along with a few (but not all) examples of the lessons in each step... 

STEP ONE: Introduction to Self Love

We'll get you on the phone app for instant access to all future lessons, get you on the community group for your ongoing supportive input, and guide you on getting the most from the course. You'll start to explore the concept of Self Love and learn the major shift needed in your consciousness to ramp up your self love.


STEP TWO: Intention

The first 'mind' step starts with intention setting, gets some myths about self love out of the way, and starts to identify and overcome blocks to self love. You'll learn how to access unconscious beliefs, dig to core beliefs, and limiting beliefs, and release them.

STEP THREE: Infusion

The first 'emotion' step teaches you the most powerful way to begin loving yourself that does not depend on needing to be any 'better' or different. You'll be able to feel more love in this step, and to create a new, more intimate relationship with your emotions.


STEP FOUR: Invitation

This step invites you to bring the shifts to the level of embodiment and to create new behaviour patterns in line with self love. You will find the right source of motivation for your actions!  We look at meeting your needs, self care, how to show yourself love more effectively, and how to make affirmations work for you (and why they usually don't!)

STEP FIVE: Introspection

Delving into your inner world we will bring your resistance to light, and overcome your blocks. We dig another level deeper with belief work, using cutting edge psychology to support you in self understanding that will allow more compassion to flow.


STEP SIX: Insight

You'll be taken through processes for working with your emotions and how the emotional process works on a deep level to give you mastery over this level of your being, with specific tools like how to transmute emotional energy, how to ground, how to clear other people's emotional energy from your system, and 'protect' your energy from unhealthy influences.

STEP SEVEN: Intimacy

Become your best friend and take this masterclass in boundaries - practical, detailed, and highly effective tools to become a boundary badass! You'll get a masterclass in mirror work, and the simple technique to make this a lifechangingly powerful practice.


STEP EIGHT: Inner-Connection

Transform the inner-critic and shift the kindness of your self talk through these journeys into connection with these parts of yourself, learning how being an empath may have created more negativity and how to release it. Begin to claim your sovereignty, and create a relationship with your heart, allowing it to open, and lead! 

STEP NINE: Integration

The art of emotional integration includes all our feelings, beyond labels of good and bad, and here you'll be guided to heal your core wounds, including your shadow, and to understand your self-protective behaviour.  This step will guide you to a relationship with your emotions where they become a reliable guidance system.


STEP TEN: Inspiration

Learn to re-parent, heal, and allow your inner child to play through you to reclaim its qualities of creative inspiration, spontaneity and fun, play, wonder, joy and innocence. Journey to your "Golden Shadow" to reclaim and embody those most beautiful and light qualities that you've hidden, repressed, or denied, to live as your fullest self.

STEP ELEVEN: Initiation

This is the culmination of all your good work - with the deep unconscious blocks cleared, your beliefs aligned with your truth, your emotions and actions lining up, and self love flowing through you, this step supports you to uncover your purpose, write vows for your self love ceremony, and perform a self initiation ritual into the life of self love you will now live.


STEP TWELVE: Innovation

This step supports you to make your self love practice your own, to whittle down the most powerful teachings and practices of the previous steps and curate your own ongoing self love practice. In this step you can fully claim your own self healing ability. You are also invited here, now your own cup is full, to explore how this can be applied to support others in your profession.


Included with this course are three special lessons brought to you by practitioners who have crafted their modalities into a special 'self love' session for you to use, follow, and repeat as often as you like. These are 40mins-1hr each. 


- Conscious Dance for Self Love

- Yoga for Self Love

- Chi Gung for Self Love

Additional Bonuses


JOURNAL PROMPTS - This collection of prompts are a standalone course by itself, and include audio prompts for verbal answers as well as written prompts to support different learning styles and preferences, and cover a wide range of topics to get into the heart of the matter and illuminate key topics with your own powerful insights. 


Journal Prompts - Eleven sessions, on: 

- Getting to know Self Love

- Getting to know joy

- Getting to know your body

- Getting to know resistance

- Getting to know emotional intimacy

- Getting to know your boundaries

- Getting to know your inner-critic

- Getting to know your shadow

- Getting to know your "Golden shadow"

- Getting to know your purpose

- Getting to know integration

“I have learned ways to practise self care and I have applied them. I have learned to show myself as much understanding and respect as I have shown others. I have learned that I need to be consequent when setting boundaries. I have started to accept and love myself for who I am, in all of my facets.” - Steffi 🌟

About Joy

Hi, I'm Joy, and I'd like to share my story with you because it is through my own transformation that this work has evolved. If I could have been there for myself when I was suffering the most, this course is what I would have given myself. If I had it at the time, my life would be unrecognisably different, but what I am most grateful for about the suffering I experienced, is that it has given me the blueprint for the way through this which I'm now in a position to offer to my soul-tribe. 

This is how this course was born: It was 2am in the Winter of 2010, and I was still a few hours from finishing a 5000 word chapter of my PhD on the dynamics of inner transformation. Even though my eyes were tired from reading and writing about what inner transformation was all about, learning all about the interplay between beliefs, emotions, and behaviour during the process of conversion and how it leads to life-long changes in moral outlook, behaviour, availability for divine grace and divine love, and the meaningfulness and purpose of life, nothing felt further from my actual experience. 

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"My five year research project, while it got a lot of accolades, internally felt like a frantic attempt to prove I was worthy"

I was trapped in my head - which was convenient as I was neck deep in books - but my life and soul felt empty… a dim shadow of the fullness I saw others enjoy. That wasn’t all - I was often overwhelmed by my emotions, and much of the time unable to contact how I was feeling at all. I was beset by depression and anxiety. I had no idea how to relax. My relationships were a war zone, my inner-critic was an unforgiving drill sergeant,  and my inner child a frightened refugee… frankly, I was miserable. I didn’t know what was wrong, and while I felt that there was something missing, I had no idea what, or how to find it. I genuinely saw no way out. This was my “normal”.


In that dark time, in the dead of that winter's night, it was somehow easier to notice my inner light - a quiet voice inside telling me not to give up. I knew intellectually, that merely knowing things doesn’t change much. I knew that I needed to live differently. So I made the decision: the pain of trying something new that might help, was less of a risk than continuing to live with the same struggles. I chose to put one foot in front of the other, and to try some new things in order to begin to heal.


"What unfolded for me, along the very lines I had set out in my theory of the conversion process. I can summarise this transformation in five words: I learnt to love myself."


At first I just experienced glimpses - an inkling that more was possible based on experiences I had when on retreat, during peak moment and in flow states, and when under expert facilitation on workshops and training courses. However, these changes were not lasting, and as soon as the experience ended and I went back to my life the same patterns came up again, the same habits and struggles reoccured. I knew I couldn’t live (or afford!) going from workshop to workshop, retreat to retreat, seeking and pursuing a temporary relief from my “normal” state.


A big ah-ha moment for me was learning that I was highly sensitive and an empath, and that explained why some facilitators, healers, and settings, didn’t really work for me - I needed a high level of sensitivity and attunement to really meet the needs of my inner child, and I learnt that the very best person in the world to do that for her, was me. So I consciously decided and set the intention to take full responsibility for my own healing, and to learn how to love myself. When a conversion happens there is no going back because the person you are irrevocably changes, and this was what I was seeking: lasting positive change. A new normal!


"My path - my healing path and spiritual path - became the way of Self Love."


I didn’t realise it at the time, but the model I’d created in my PhD could be generalised, and I was the first test subject for my transformational self love process that was based on this research, which drew from some of the greatest thinkers and mystics who have written on this area. I traded in late night essay writing sessions for early morning self love practices, reading every book and implementing every exercise I could get my hands on, and furthered my training as a healer. It took courage, work, and diligence to work through everything I needed to learn to love within me. It didn’t take long before I felt noticeable differences within myself, and my life took on a different quality, that felt increasingly guided and meaningful, although there were still blocks thrown up when I moved towards actualising my healing abilities, because I still felt overloaded with other people's emotions.


"I still avoided public crowds and supermarkets, so I knew the journey wasn't over! I didn't want to keep hiding from life..."


I internalised some of the practices that I felt were effective, and went deep with them. I created some of my own, too, and found ways to refine and deepen the practices, with the benchmark for success always being the quality of my own experience. One moment at a time, one small action, one thought, and one feeling at a time, love found its way deeper and deeper into my system, until that empty feeling was replaced with a feeling of aliveness, the painful loneliness gave way to connection, the deep pervasive sadness made space for joy, and the quiet despair turned into purpose. It was only after finding self love that I was able to turn to my true calling. I had not managed to truly serve others in the way I felt I could, before this happened. 

"Once I loved myself, the patterns that help me back softened and I could follow my calling to establish a successful healing practice."


When I think and feel back to that earlier time in my life I feel deep compassion for my younger self. I see a woman who did not know her own worth, value, and beauty, and who therefore allowed herself to be treated in terrible ways, including by herself. I want to hold her, to look her in the eyes, and tell her how truly amazing she is, and how worthy of love! And if you resonate with any of the pain I have described, I want that for you too!

"My deepest wish is for all beings to be free from suffering."

I teach and guide other highly sensitive and empathic souls to make their own lasting transformation through a step-by-step holistic and practical process I’ve called the ‘12 I’s of self-love’, which includes the most effective and efficient methods I found, tried and tested by yours truly. Dozens of clients got the same results I did - a profound shift in the quality of their inner world and an upgrade in the quality of their outer experience to match - although the refinement and presentation of my online course makes it a more simple and straightforward process than the long and windy road I originally took! People love the grounded and clear teaching. 

What I love most about this process, is that although I may be a guide, you are the one who owns it.

"Truthfully, you are always the one that heals yourself, and the results will be all yours."

You can learn how to heal yourself with a self love practice that can literally change your life. If you are ready to look inward, honestly and courageously, and once and for all free yourself from your suffering, open yourself to deep intimacy, to authentic heart-centred expression, creative potential, and joy, then I invite you to take this journey with me: The “Be Beloved” Self-Love Initiation, to AWKEN THE HEALER WITHIN...

“I found the journeys and meditations very powerful. The meditations gave me a lot of insight into myself and the journeys just felt natural to me. I was able to go quite deep into the journeys and I always came out of them feeling very happy.” - Steffi 🌟

Investment for Self Paced Course


I want this course to be accessible, even though the value is beyond price, and this investment is far below its value. If you need a payment plan, I offer 3 monthly payments of £111 instead.


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