Self Love Initiation
90 days to end empath overload and burnout through self love
Commencing Valentine's Day 2021
3 month inner Odessey
live via zoom + eCourse
with Dr. Joy Lovesey
Who This Is For
Those sensitive souls and empathic ones wanting to initiate into a self love practice, and learn to self-heal your wounds and blocks through the modality of unconditional love.
The journey moves through the aspects of belief, emotion, embodiment, and spirit so that self love embeds in a way that will create a genuine and lasting shift in your reality.
If you resonate with any of these statements, then I had you in mind when I created this course…
You are aware that you struggle with self love
You want to thoroughly enjoy your own company
You want to fully receive complements and love offered from others
You want to experience the kind of relationships you've been longing for
You want to feel more energised, passionate, creative and alive
You want a deeper relationship to yourself and all of life and are open to something more
You want more balance in your life between work, relationships, health, family, spirituality, play, and creativity
You want techniques that you can integrate and use independently for a sustainable practice
You are ready to take responsibility for your own healing
You have time to either attend or watch later the live sessions
You can commit to an hour a week of self practice for 12 weeks
The aim of this course is that you cultivate a beautiful relationship with your self.
From this foundation, so much else can flow, and you may experience deep shifts in other areas of your life as a result. 🌟
If you aren't sure if you need more self love, or what lack of self love looks like, here are some symptoms of lack of self love, that this course aims to support you to overcome:
A fierce "inner critic"
Not trusting your feelings / second guessing yourself
Symptoms from over-empathising (taking on other people’s stuff)
Not enjoying your own company or finding it hard to be alone
Putting up with less than you deserve in relationships
Attracting emotionally unavailable / uncommitted partners
Being a target for narcissistic abuse
Questioning whether your loved ones really love you or would love you if they knew everything about you
Fearing you will be abandoned or rejected
Overworking / hyper-achievement
Imbalance in life, e.g. successful in work but not relationships, or vice versa
Feeling you are not good enough
Feeling empty inside
Stored unprocessed emotions like loneliness, grief and shame
The most profound and lasting transformation will be the result of your habitual engagement in the tools and practices offered through this process. The vision I hold for those who participate fully is that your new normal will be:
Fabulous company 24/7
Being comfortable with you
Knowing yourself intimately
Clear boundaries you assertively uphold
Feeling clear and purposeful
Advocating for what you are worth (hint: it is a lot!!!)
Passionate self encouragement
Sweet enjoyment of life’s pleasures
Abundance, and giving from abundance
Effortless healthy habits and self care
Magnetic attractiveness to the right people
Feeling whole, and full
What Graduates Say...
Course Format and Schedule
The Be Beloved Self Love Initiation process is a 12 week immersion
I will share the very best of the tools, practices, and resources that I have used and proved over the years in the clearest way I can. AND you will get free access to the online course platform where you can access…
Live footage of self love ceremonies and workshops
Examples/ demos and inspiration
Self Love Music Playlist
… and everything you need, as an ongoing companion to you as your self love journey continues and deepens long after the lives have finished.
This will give you the very best chance to really cultivate the life you want without a lack of self love blocking you. You’ll also get invited to the community group where you can get extra feedback, support, and inspiration from other beautiful souls in the self love tribe, including me.
The most profound and lasting transformation will be the result of your habitual engagement with these ways of being.
Schedule of Self-Love Sundays
Retreat Day 1: Sunday 14th Feb: 1pm - 7pm
Small Group Coaching Session: Sunday 21st Feb: 1pm - 3pm
Retreat Day 2: Sunday 14th Mar: 1pm - 7pm
Small Group Coaching Session: Sunday 21st March: 1pm - 3pm
Retreat Day 3: Sunday 11th Apr: 1pm - 7pm
Group Integration Session: Sunday 18th Apr: 10am - 12pm
These sessions are all via zoom, links will be on the course platform, and if you miss them, you'll get the full recording to catch up in between.
Hi, I'm Joy, and I'd like to share my story with you because it is through my own transformation that this work has evolved. If I could have been there for myself when I was suffering the most, this course is what I would have given myself. If I had it at the time, my life would be unrecognisably different, but what I am most grateful for about the suffering I experienced is that it has motivated me to be in a position to offer it to my soul-tribe.
This is how this course was born: It was 2am in the Winter of 2010, and I was still a few hours from finishing a 5000 word chapter of my PhD on the dynamics of religious conversion. Even though my eyes were tired from reading and writing about what inner transformation was all about, learning all about the interplay between beliefs, emotions, and behaviour during the process of conversion that leads to life-long changes in moral outlook, behaviour, availability for divine grace and divine love, and the meaningfulness and purpose of life, nothing felt further from my actual experience. My five year research project, while it got a lot of accolades externally, internally felt like a frantic attempt to prove I was worthy.
I was trapped in my head - which was convenient as I was neck deep in books - but my life and soul felt empty… a dim shadow of the fullness I saw others enjoy. That wasn’t all - I was often overwhelmed by my emotions, and much of the time unable to contact how I was feeling at all. I was beset by depression and anxiety. I had no idea how to relax. My relationships were a war zone, my inner-critic was an unforgiving drill sergeant, and my inner child a frightened refugee… frankly, I was miserable. I didn’t know what was wrong, and while I felt that there was something missing, I had no idea what, or how to find it. I genuinely saw no way out. This was my “normal”.
In that dark time, in the dead of that winter's night, it was somehow easier to notice my inner light - a quiet voice inside telling me not to give up. I knew intellectually, that merely knowing things doesn’t change much. I knew that I needed to live differently. So I made the decision: the pain of trying something new that might help, was less of a risk than continuing to live with the same struggles. I chose to put one foot in front of the other, and to try some new things in order to begin to heal.
"What unfolded for me, along the very lines I had set out in my theory of the conversion process. I can summarise this transformation in five words: I learnt to love myself."
At first I just experienced glimpses - an inkling that more was possible based on experiences I had when on retreat, during peak moment and in flow states, and when under expert facilitation on workshops and training courses. However, these changes were not lasting, and as soon as the experience ended and I went back to my life the same patterns came up again, the same habits and struggles reoccured. I knew I couldn’t live (or afford!) going from workshop to workshop, retreat to retreat, seeking and pursuing a temporary relief from my “normal” state.
A big ah-ha moment for me was learning that I was highly sensitive and an empath, and that explained why some facilitators, healers, and settings, didn’t really work for me - I needed a high level of sensitivity and attunement to really meet the needs of my inner child, and I learnt that the very best person in the world to do that for her, was me. So I consciously decided and set the intention to take full responsibility for my own healing, and to learn how to love myself. When a conversion happens there is no going back because the person you are irrevocably changes, and this was what I was seeking: lasting positive change. A new normal!
"My path - my healing path and spiritual path - became the way of Self Love."
I didn’t realise it at the time, but the model I’d created in my PhD could be generalised, and I was the first test subject for my transformational self love process that was based on this research, which drew from some of the greatest thinkers and mystics who have written on this area. I traded in late night essay writing sessions for early morning self love practices, reading every book and implemented every exercise I could get my hands on, and furthered my training as a healer. It took courage, work, and diligence to work through everything I needed to learn to love. It didn’t take long before I felt noticeable differences within myself, and my life took on a different quality, that felt increasingly guided and meaningful. I internalised some of the practices that I felt were effective, and went deep with them. I created some of my own, too, and found ways to refine and deepen the practice, with the benchmark for success always being the quality of my own experience. One moment at a time, one small action, one thought, and one feeling at a time, love found its way deeper and deeper into my system, until that empty feeling was replaced with a feeling of being whole, the painful loneliness gave way to joy, the deep pervasive sadness made space for aliveness, and the quiet despair turned into purpose.
When I think and feel back to that earlier time in my life I feel deep compassion for my younger self. I see a woman who did not know her own worth, value, and beauty, and who therefore allowed herself to be treated in terrible ways, and treated herself in terrible ways. I want to hold her, to look her in the eyes, and tell her how truly amazing she is, and how worthy of love! And if you resonate with any of the pain I have described, I want that for you too!
"My deepest wish is for all beings to be free from suffering."
I teach and guide other highly sensitive and empathic souls to make their own lasting transformation through a step-by-step holistic and practical process I’ve called the ‘3 I’s of self-love’, which includes the most effective and efficient methods I found, tried and tested by yours truly. Dozens of clients have got the same results I did - a profound shift in the quality of their inner world and an upgrade in the quality of their outer experience to match - although the refinement and presentation of my online course makes it a more simple and straightforward process than the long windy road I originally took!
What I love most about this process, is that although I may be a guide, you are the one who owns it.
"Truthfully, you are always the one that heals yourself, and the results will be all yours."
You can learn how to heal yourself with a self love practice that can literally change your life. If you are ready to look inward, honestly and courageously, and once and for all free yourself from your suffering, open yourself to deep intimacy, to authentic heart-centred expression, creative potential, and joy, then I invite you to take this journey with me: The “Be Beloved” Self-Love Initiation.
Frequently Asked Questions
I already love myself - does this course still have anything to offer me?
First of all - AWESOME! You rock ;)
How much does the course cost?
The two options for right now are:
Can I do this another time?
For the live version - No, there are currently no plans for another live course.
What's the refund policy?
For the e-course you can email firstname.lastname@example.org to ask for a refund for any reason, within 7 days of buying.
Can I do this course if I have a mental health issue?
This course can be deep and transformative and as such can involve working through difficult psychological material. In order to do the course you must be stable enough with an adequate support network in place to be able to feel your difficult feelings and move through them. If you are unsure about whether this is the case, or you have any doubts about your wellbeing now or during the course, stop, and seek therapeutic support. If you have a diagnosed mental health issue, speak with your therapist or team to ask if they would support you through it.
What will I need to participate in the live sessions?
- space to move a bit
- comfortable sitting or lying for a while in meditation
- a journal or notebook and pen
- water nearby
- food prepared if you want to eat during the break, as the longest break will be 30 mins
What if I can't make a live zoom session?
You will be included energetically, and afterwards you'll be sent a link to download the recording, and you can find another time to watch it back and participate as if you were there.
What's the difference between a "Retreat Day" and a "Support Session"
Is this course only theoretical, or will it teach me what to actually do?
The course is experiential and practical, and aimed at you actually doing the exercies in order to get the benefits.
What happens during a Retreat Day?
A typical retreat day will include guided meditations and journeys, embodiment, self love exercises alone and in pairs or groups, teachings that explain and motivate the practice group healing and demos of self love healing on some participants, and sharing.
What happens during a Support Session
What if I don't have Facebook? Can I still be part of the community?
What time committment does the course take?
Attending the days, or catching up on them before the next would be the main time committment.
What is "self love"
When you think of love, you might bring to mind feelings of care, connection, kindliness, warmth, well-wishing, wanting the best for, and a willingness to support, attend to, and nurture. Self love is when you are able to direct those feelings inwardly, so that you generate and share them with yourself.
Why learn from Joy?
If you resonate with Joy or feel drawn to this, this is a good reason coming from your intuition.